From reading I've seen that us kids have a a mask that we have to put on to be a part of the dysfunctional family.

These masks might include:

• The Hero: someone whose constantly achieving to make up for the shortcomings in the family. They're the "good son" or "good girl."
• The Caretaker: the person whose job it is to take care of everyone.
• The Scapegoat: the person who causes a lot of trouble in a bid for attention

I believe I took on or take on the Caretaker .....