Friday, June 14, 2013

It has been said that some men (things done or said)


   To attract women.

     Like Bibles.

     A Bible can be a great chic magnet. Makes even gangsters and car salesmen look safe. Friendly. Trustworthy. Especially if it has his own name engraved on it. Now, I'm not knocking car salesmen and guys who tote Bibles. Most of these guys are legit. But some are merely veneer. Stay clear. You've seen them-the fake Jakes and faux Pauls.

     That's why it's imperative that you not only take Daters Ed but cover yourself with wisdom and accountability. We all have blind spots when it comes to love. When I'm driving, I have to look over my shoulder before switching lanes. Without a rear-view mirror, I may crash and burn.

     So take things slow when you are getting to know a guy. And the same goes for you guys too. I mean, come on.

     Employers check references.

     Banks require collateral.

     Apartments demand a security deposit.

     But singles everywhere hop in a relationship and drive it faster than a Maserati, risking their most valuable possession-their heart. Too many singles assume that everything a potential love interest says is certified but everyone puts their best foot forward in the beginning of a relationship. That's why it is so important to complete an inspection. Evaluating character takes time but one thing is certain-the truth comes out eventually.
Just don't get in a hurry. Slow down. Look over your shoulder and proceed with caution.
 
     If you don't, your passion may go crashing.



 
Prayer: Lord, help me to be cautious when I'm considering new friendships or dating interests. Give me the wisdom to choose companions who love you and follow your ways. I pray that you will send people with whom I can be accountable and who will be direct enough to advise me of character issues that I am oblivious to. Please protect my heart from those who may take advantage of me and are not honest with their intentions. In Jesus' name I pray. Amen.

Monday, April 30, 2012

From reading I've seen that us kids have a a mask that we have to put on to be a part of the dysfunctional family.

These masks might include:


  • The Hero: someone whose constantly achieving to make up for the shortcomings in the family. They're the "good son" or "good girl."
  • The Caretaker: the person whose job it is to take care of everyone.
  • The Scapegoat: the person who causes a lot of trouble in a bid for attention
I believe I took on or take on the Caretaker .....

Is it impossible-Being Yourself If You're a Child Abuse Survivor?

Some kids go home and they won't be happy, because they'll be going home to a dysfunctional and abusive family. Their family will pass along messages of shame such as "you're not good enough unless you become...(you fill in the blank)" or "good boys and girls must always be happy." This family may even physically or sexually abuse them, and then compound this abuse by keeping it secret and encouraging the kids not to talk about it.